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Thursday, 29 May 2014

Unwritten Rules: Chapter 6

"Ada..."

These words escaped Gbolahan Dada's lips as he walked past the lithe figure of a very beautiful dark haired, light-skinned Nigerian woman. She projected the picture of the 21st century career woman. She was dressed in a white sequinned shirt and a pencil skirt with black pumps and a suitcase bag.

She turned around in the newly renovated Abuja Airport and looking asking at the tall dark, Yoruba male standing before her, who was dressed in a dark blue dashiki shirt and trouser.

She murmured a hesitant "Hello"

She pursed her lips and then her mouth broke into a smile as she flew into Gbolahan's arms.

"Dearest" she whispered the words from perfectly painted lips.

She was a picture of elegance, elegance that spoke of the highest excellence. She had a personality that broadcast to the world 'nothing but the best would do for me'.

They separated but their hands were still linked and slowly swinging back and forth.

"How have you been?" she smiled.

"I am doing great, dearest. How have you been? Have you been living under a rock?"

"No. I have actually made quite a mark for myself. You have probably been too busy to notice other people's successes. I see you have done quite well for yourself"

"Likewise" He tried to quell the pride that welled up in him at her words "You cannot be classified as a Lagos big girl or an Abuja big girl; you are somewhere up there in a class of your own"

"We ought to spend some time together, chatting, catching up" still smiling "Would you mind having my card?"

"Definitely" He thought for a while and then said, "I am in Abuja for a couple of days, why don't we meet up?"

"I am catching a connecting flight to Gombe"

He frowned "Gombe? Why Gombe?"

He asked without words what she was going to do in Gombe when everyone was slowly avoiding the North.

"I have to see my husband urgently. He is doing some business in Gombe"

He nods understanding. "I don't have to tell you the north is not safe and it hasn't been safe for a long time; but lately, some things are going down. You shouldn't be there."

"Okay." She smiles. "You have not changed. How is your wife? I always did like her. Warm, giving..."
She trailed off.

"She is doing great. Let's get together when you return to Lagos then, if I am not mistaken, your first flight was from Lagos"

"We have homes in Lagos and Abuja. I hate the impersonal feel of hotel rooms unless I have to use them, too stuffy!"

"You are still as choosy as ever" He hugged her "Let me catch up on business in Abuja"

"Take care and it was good seeing you"

She blinked and then continued on her way to catch her next flight.

She looked back at him, smiled and kept going to her destination.

Gbolahan looked back at her elegant figure and fleetingly considered that the both of them had never mentioned Mahmoud. It was a silent thing, the choice to pretend that Mahmoud, their once dear friend and his still close friend, did not exist.

He let it go and hurried to catch an airport taxi to meet up with his business partner at the Sheraton Hotel, Abuja.

*****

Bright Okopi walked down the street in Surulere heading for his pastor's house. He caught the bus from VI into Costain and then got a bus going into Surulere. The beauty of the sights and sounds of Lagos sank into his spirit. He loved the bridges, the billboards and the energy of the place called Lagos. His friends laughingly called it Las Gidi, the city that never sleeps.

It was known as 'Centre of Excellence' by the local government bosses, the governor made the slogan 'Eko o ni baje' popular on the lips of all Lagosians.

Although the current governor had made many doubt their honorary position as Lagosian when he deported certain people, some Hausas and some Ibos. Rumours had it that he was averting war and possible strikes of the deadly Boko Haram sect. His pastor called them cowards because only cowards captured women and children. Only cowards killed defenceless people or killed children in their beds while they were still sleeping.

"Good evening ma" he greeted his pastor's wife as he entered the living room.

"How was work, Bright?"

"Fine, thank you, ma." He muttered as he shook the rain off his raincoat and stride into the sitting room.

"He's in your study," she pointed in the direction of his study.

The study was made of wood, carved, beautiful, ornamental wood.

"Good evening sir"

His pastor looked up from his study of the bible "Good evening Bright how was your first week at work? Did you enjoy it?"

"Great. Everywhere and everyone is so beautiful and I am enjoying the orientation. I will be living for Port Harcourt after my second week".

"Hmmm" He nodded.

"I had great time learning a lot from my supervisors. The boss came to address the ten of us that were chosen from the recruitment exercise this morning. I like him"

"Remember to cooperate with you bosses and supervisors. It is God's divine organization."

"How do you mean?"

"Any man who is going to make impact in the world and the next must learn to follow God's divine organization?"

"Does that mean that I must do anything my boss says?"

"No, my son. God is God. He wants you to do all things in the fear of the LORD. Give him first position. Remember Joseph"

"Okay sir" he nodded and even though he did not understand it fully, he knew that his pastor was right. His pastor was always about the word.

"So what are we learning today?"

"Authority. The Believers Authority"

"Hmmm. You are a great student. Let us start now and pray afterwards. "

"Repeat after me, this is very important." Bright looked intently at his pastor. "The head of every man is Christ. The head of Christ is God. The head of the woman is the man..."

Bright repeated.

"The head of every man is Christ..."

*****

Toke Dada wore a bright yellow tank top and white shorts with sneakers. She was watching a movie with her mom. She had the best mom in the world. Her mom made time for her on Friday or Saturday night. They spent it watching a movie and Daddy sometimes joined them.

She looked up at her mom in a white tank top and navy blue shorts with sneakers. They were watching the latest captain America movie. The Ibo mafia were still working. The movie was not out in the United States yet but the Ibo mafia knew how to get those movies once it was out in box office. When they failed her kid cousin, Tunde, had creative fingers.

"Mom, do you know I love you?" she smiled into her mom's eyes.

"Yes dear." Her mom smiled a little preoccupied with the movie. "What prompted that, dear?"

"I was just thinking about you and dad, and how I love you both"

"Hmmm" she smiled knowing her daughter had more to say.

"I noticed that you somehow ignore him lately," she said in a worried voice.

Her mother looked at her alarmed. "Whatever makes you think that?"

"I am a kid" Toke smiled to herself "...but in case you noticed I am also growing up into a beautiful young woman"

"You are one smart chic" she smiled. "I am just a little upset with him"

"Do you think he's cheating?"

"I shouldn't be having such conversations with a 14 year old"

"Hmmm, you're always saying you want me to grow into a responsible adult" she smiled "If I am going to succeed at that, you cannot be shutting me up when I want to clarify things".

Bimbo Dada swallowed and then looked in her daughters eyes, tears sprang in them immediately.

"I think so"

Toke nodded emotionless.

"What do you want to do about it?"

"I don't understand" Bimbo blinked back the tears. "What do you mean?"

"I have been around you both a number of years to know that Daddy is crazy about you. If some woman is distracting him, you must have left a gap. Daddy does not seem like someone who would enjoy playing a fast one on you. Maybe he's lonely"

"What about me? Look at me here with you on a Saturday night, instead of with him".

"Are you saying, 'I'm boring'?" Toke shrieked in mock offence.

"No. I am just saying I am human too."

"Do you want to be right or do you want to remain married in every sense to my daddy," Toke asked in a very serious voice. "Let me say that I really want you guys to be really married on the outside and on the inside, I am tired of the cold air that has been blowing around".

"I do," she said in a quiet voice.

"Then be present in the marriage, when he wants to talk to you, talk. Drop the grievances of a day on that same day no malice. You are a Christian, remember?"

"Is that blackmail?"

"No mom. I want you to love my dad. I want us to be one big happy family. Please"

"Okay dear. I promise you I will fight for my marriage. I will do my absolute best to keep every promise I have made to God. I promise you, I will forgive your daddy"

Toke launched herself into her mom's arms. She was crying betraying the teenager that she was.
Bimbo Dada held her daughter tight in her arms. This child was her blessing. She had directed her thoughts away from thought of separation to thoughts of love. God help her. She almost gave up. She looks up to the heavens and gave thanks and then murmured.

"Father, give me the grace to forgive that man"

As those word left her mouth, she remembered her mom's words and then set out to do God's will for that day with an added prayer that she would remember to do his will tomorrow.

"Father, protect my husband" she said out loud.

"Do you still want to watch the movie?" She said brushing Toke's hair.

Toke shook her head "No mom. Maybe tomorrow. I am just glad being with you."

Tessa Doghor

She is one of the leading Social Media Managers in Nigeria with the ability to foresee trends and build on it before it becomes commonplace. She is intelligent and strategic. She is also an amazing writer. To get in touch mail her at tessadoghor@gmail.com

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Saturday, 24 May 2014

Addicted: A book review and a book blast. Well, kind of!

I'm an addict.
I've never been addicted to drugs, food, alcohol o cigarettes
I skipped over all that in my teenage years
I had some bad habits, go over those when I surrender to Jesus and chose to give him the LORD
I had to dethrone everything and everyone else and give him first place
In couldn't kick just one habit
Reading

From the age of 6, I read my reader not in class but at home
Academics was the only area I wasn't a late bloomer
I didn't grow breasts and hips until I was 15
I didn't grow taller until I was in college a year later
But the habit of reading, I couldn't kick it
I'm 2 days late but I'm still gonna tell you all about a BOOK CONTEST.

She's a female author of 'An Unexpected blessing' and is giving away her latest book as an eBook in kindle or Nook format only. She's a friend on twitter and Facebook. If you're not following me on twitter, please do. My handle is @tessbabee



To enter go here: http://bit.ly/1v0qb9e

Book Title: When You Let Go
Genre: Christian Fiction, Novel
Publication Date: May 22, 2014
Genre: Christian Fiction

About The Book:

An answered prayer. An unforeseen betrayal. A family healed by grace.

Amara and Ejike Dike had been married for six glorious years. Amara was convinced Ejike, was the perfect gift from God. Loving, charming and very easy on the eyes. They had a beautiful life. Well, not so beautiful. Amara's inability to bear children made her feel like a less than the perfect mate for her husband.
Then after many years, God lifted her faith and had finally heard her cry. The Dikes couldn't be happier.
A surprise visit from Chinelo, Amara's long lost cousin, turns Amara's world upside down and threatens to turn her once-perfect existence into ashes.
Ejike loved his wife with a passion. They shared a burning desire and faith in God that burned deep. However Chinelo's appearance would open a Pandora's Box that had purposely been kept shut.
Faced with the loss of all she holds dear, Amara finds herself at crossroads. Would she lean on God's sustaining grace to let go and travel the rocky path to forgiveness? Or would she throw everything to the wind and walk away?
When You Let Go is a novel about people who know what the Word of God instructs but struggle with actually doing it when the chips are down

(We all struggle with this, knowing what to do but wondering if we can because its easier to say, than do. Especially when you don't expect surprises. I want to read this book).

About The Author:
Born in Akron, Ohio to Nigerian parents. Unoma Nwankwor spent her childhood and early adulthood years in Port-Harcourt, Nigeria. She is a romantic at heart and is passionate about telling stories of faith and hope about love. She hope to capture her readers through stories that are faith based with an element of love.



After all, "and now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love." ~1 Corinthians 13:13
She is the published author of An Unexpected Blessing (2013) and The Christmas Ultimatum (2013) and many published flash fiction and short stories. Her work has appeared in Africa Book Club and the Kenyan Ezine ;Wamathai and well as numerous radio shows and blogs. She is currently working on her next novel When You Let Go (May, 2014) and A Scoop of Love (October, 2014).
Her readers are in love with her unique way of telling stories that capture the essence of her present home base; Atlanta Georgia and her Nigerian culture. She calls them her God-given stories and strives every day to be a use her gift to His glory.



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I hope you enjoy it
From your book addict, cheers and have a wonderful weekend.
Theresa


Tessa Doghor

She is one of the leading Social Media Managers in Nigeria with the ability to foresee trends and build on it before it becomes commonplace. She is intelligent and strategic. She is also an amazing writer. To get in touch mail her at tessadoghor@gmail.com

Tessa Doghor manages a site called http://www.udookonjo.com that specializes in teaching entrepreneurial principles.

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Friday, 23 May 2014

Unwritten Rules: Chapter 5

She got up and walked to the driveway, got into her car and drove away without once looking back. She had made up her mind.
Tanya Williams walked down the corridor to her office. She had been in the office 2 hours and already she had to do some transactions. 'All in a day's job', she mused.

She slipped off her red pumps and put on her black flat shoes. She was dressed stylishly in champagne coloured trouser suit and a red camisole with a watch and a pair of earrings.

'If she was going to stay on her feet, no need staying for long hours and having cramps that would steal half her sleep' so she thought as she slipped out of the office.

She walked elegantly across the street to the nearest bank. The Nigerian Government changed their minds the way young women changed their outfits.
Today they wanted more banks spread across the nation. The next day, they wanted only banks that had a certain amount of money in their vaults.

Today stealing was corruption; tomorrow stealing was not corruption. It all seemed a little like every Nigerian was a character in the book 'Animal Farm'. It was almost as if life was a game of chess.

"Good morning" she greeted cheerfully as she entered the banking hall.

It was impressive but what she needed more than decor; was quick service delivery. Some banks seemed a little dense when it came to fulfilling their promises. She entered the bank and made her payments in record time. She exited the bank and entered an eatery to take some lunch before reporting to the office.
She entered an eatery and walked straight to the counter.

"Good morning"

It was directed at the under paid overworked young lady behind the counter. She was having a terrible morning emotionally. She knew to deliver but handling her soul was a little difficult. Sibling rivalry was getting to her.

The #BringBackOurGirls had succeeded in being noticed but whether it was succeeding in bringing back the girls, she was not quite sure. The news reported three new bombings in Jos and one or two in Kano. She was not quite sure. A popular pastor said on twitter that physical battles were to be fought with physical weapons and spiritual battles with spiritual weapons. She wasn't sure if the government was listening or if they cared. There was no word. All she wanted was for those girls to be released back to their parents.

These were some of the bitter truths of the country called Nigeria. She was far from perfect. A few minutes later, the overworked eatery attendant was free and in front of her.

"What do you want, madam?"

She sighed.

"Hi, I am Tanya, I'd like some fried chicken and rice with a milkshake". She smiled to put the young lady at ease.

The young lady worked as though scared of losing her job each minute. It gave her a subservient attitude and no room to innovate or no hope of a promotion. Life was not meant to be lived like this.

"I would love to invite you for something I think you need"

Life was meant to be savoured.

"Here's the card. It is an outfit that trains and equips young people with skills to get better jobs" The girl collected it hesitantly.

"I would love to see you there on Saturday; it could be a turnaround for you if you would practice what you hear".

Most people thought you were going to hand out money to them at such events. What they didn't realize was that learning to add value was better than just collecting money. If you learned to add value, you would always be able to serve out of choice and not out of fear.

"I will think about it".

Tanya mused about silly answers like that. 'I am not a man and it is not a date, it is a chance to get more skills and give you a chance to make more of what God has gifted you with' she thought to herself.
She wanted to give her some advice but refrained, most people got offended when they got advice from strangers. They were more defensive than willing to learn. That was the story of the life of a growing economy and its peoples.

"Thank you for the excellent service" she said as she took her tray and looked for a seat.

She had learnt from one of her coaches to be kind at all time no matter what. It helped make others have a good day.
She sat and began devouring the meal quickly albeit delicately when her reverie was interrupted by a very confident voice. She was not disappointed when she turned to the source of the interruption.

"I hope you don't mind if I join you"

She groaned inside as she gave the clicked response made popular by Nigerian girls who wanted to be polite.

"It is a free world, you can sit anywhere"

She bit her lip. No break, thank God and no blood. She continued eating.

"Where are you from?" No game, brother!

"I'm Port Harcourt but I grew up in Lagos" She murmured between meals

"I am Subomi Williams and I am a Lagosian" He grinned in a convivial manner.

She warmed to him instinctively "I am Tanya" "I am a business man by choice and a lawyer by profession"

"I am a reporter" she smiled

"I am a collector" he smiled again, "I love art".

"Hmmm" she mused as she bit into her juicy chicken "The only art I know is putting words on my blank MS Word document, that's art". She laughed.

"Let me take you out to dinner" he offered

'Does that actually work in Nigeria' she thought to herself. She smiled warmly and informed him sweetly that she was busy all week.

He laughed loudly.

"I don't do this often, If you need to think about dinner, let me give you my card"

He offered his card as he saw she was about to leave. He stood up before she did his card in his hand, his hand in the air.
She hesitated a second before she collected the card. His contact could come in handy.
She walked out with a flourish and slipped the card into her champagne coloured trouser. She headed for her office, and work.

His handsome face and suave manner stayed somewhere in the recesses of her mind. She probably wasn't going to go out to dinner with him.

***

"Okay sir"

Bright Okopi was in a brightly coloured room with his pastor. He was dressed in a suit. His pastor had bought him two pairs of suits at the Above and Beyond in Surulere. They had excellent affordable, quality suits.

"Is this me?"

He was grateful inside of him for this help from his pastor. He grew up in Ajegunle and one of the traits was a deep inferiority complex that developed into hate.
Usually a nasty one that said without words but loud all the same thatt the world owed him or Nigeria owed him for him being poor.
The first time his pastor had confronted him about his attitude, telling him that he did not need to have an inferior complex now that he was in Christ Jesus.

He looked up in surprise and then he had reacted angrily; he burst out of the room and went home vowing never to go back. He had stayed away from church for three weeks rejecting his pastor's calls on his phone every day.

As the days went by, he felt the gentle nudging of the Holy Spirit that his pastor was right. His pastor was the shepherd God sent to train and equip him for the life that God has planned for him.

Why was he fighting his blessing?

He cried then. After the crying he got up and went to his pastor's house to apologise for walking off saying that he was back to learn how to be a disciple for Christ.
This was 6 months ago. Now God had blessed him with this job.
He had also blessed him with someone to help him transition.

"Thank you sir" he sighed and looked up. "Can you remember the journey here, sir? I am not poor anymore and it is thanks to you"

"I am just obeying my call to make disciples" His pastor looked up. "In this Christian, we are soldier and our responsibility is to do what the One who called us has asked us to do. Your happiness is just the overflow".

"I won't forget the please and the thank you and to serve like 'Joseph'"

"Hmmm" His pastor laughed out loud "It is a Father's joy to see that His children are walking in the truth. I am sure that God is gladder than I".

"I will report for work early because I aim to be the best and to add as much value that is demanded and over and above it"

"You cannot go wrong when you serve, my boy" he clasped his shoulders.

"Yes sir"

"Don't forget all the laws of the kingdom now" Bright nodded "Give your tithes, your offerings, this honours God. Honour your biological parents and your spiritual parents, the spiritual laws work for you".

"I won't sir".

Okopi nodded thinking of how he would avoid his friends' questions of how he was spending his money. He would have to keep that to himself. He packed his shoes into the packages and his two new pairs of suits and shirts.

"Most especially, don't forget to spend time with God daily; that is the only place to get divine energy to live a successful life daily"

This man was more than his pastor. He was a father.

"How will I ever repay you, sir?"

"Don't think about me" He smiled into his eyes. "If you want to make me happy, make other disciples, tell them about the great commission, tell them about Jesus".

"Thank you sir" he hugged him surprising his pastor.

"Come and see me and have lunch with my family and I on Saturday every week" the man held his shoulders "I will put you through anything else you need to know"

He smiled and started heading home. Even though his father could not help him in the financial world, God had sent him a father and for that he was grateful. They may not always agree but time had shown him that he could trust this man who was his shepherd.

"Bye bye ma" he said as he walked out of the house. His pastor's wife was cooking lunch on a gas cooker.

"Bright, are you not staying for lunch?"

"No ma, I start work on Monday, I am too excited to eat"

She smiled understanding, then packed some buns in a black nylon and handed it to him with a bottle of plastic coke.

"Eat that on your way home then." He nodded and collected it "Give my regards to your parents too"

He walked out. Making a decision for Jesus was the best thing he ever did.
Now having mentors, his life was changing just as they promised. He looked up as though a some heavenly being.

"Thank You, LORD"

Wherever God led him, By His grace He would follow, he vowed silently.

Tessa Doghor

She is one of the leading Social Media Managers in Nigeria with the ability to foresee trends and build on it before it becomes commonplace. She is intelligent and strategic. She is also an amazing writer. To get in touch mail her at tessadoghor@gmail.com

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Wednesday, 14 May 2014

Unwritten Rules: Chapter 4

Chapter 4

Gbolahan Dada slipped through the crowd at a party somewhere in Abuja. He made his way in a black suit to a man seated in traditional Hausa attire. In his head when he saw Hausa's he saw turbaned men who cut people's hands for stealing a goat and married 10 year olds.
Mahmoud wasn't Hausa. Mahmoud was his friend. He was what the contemporary Nigerian called the Northern elite. To Gbolahan, Mahmoud was his friend.

"Mahmoud Abubakar" He hugged him "My brother from another mother".

He belonged to a royal family and had the clout to get him into any social circle in Northern Nigeria. They met at the age of 17 in the United Kingdom. They were college friends and soon grew to become close friends. Mahmoud was now married to a 35-year-old woman with ten-year-old twin boys.
They sat together and exchanges friendly light chats.

They were at a wedding of one of the hosts' daughters. This party was sane; it was a very different kind of the party.

It was different from the parties they had frequented when they were still younger. Alhaji Danjuma or as he was fondly called by the London crowd, 'Musa' was a party animal. His parties were characterised by acts that dehumanised humans, men, women and children alike. He had no limits. The orgies he threw by night had nothing to do with Sharia law which he supported by day. You would think he would give up youthful lusts but on the grapevine, he still heard things that suggested that he had not given up his penchant for such parties.

As much as his conscience had seared in many areas, he was not comfortable participating in the destruction of human beings. What these two eyes had seen, his wife would never know.
As an adult, He had to run away from some of the parties organised by Danjuma, after a while he simply stopped doing business with the man. Until Mahmoud rescued him from the dilemma of doing business with Musa, It was not worth losing his soul.

Only Mahmoud knew how much of a Christian he was that being at such parties bothered him.
He wondered how much of a Christian he still was. He still went to church. He just did not talk to God any longer. The guilt would not let him be. His mother could not drive away his nightmares anymore. He was a big boy now.

"We have seen great days together, some connections are divine"

He remembered the days when Mahmoud and Ada were part of their trio. The trio had schooled abroad and sowed a couple of wild oats but nothing as risqué as what was going on in northern exclusive parties set in London.

Ada and Mahmoud were into each other all through college but it had all fizzled out when Ada returned to school in her final year saying: 'Emeka has carried my palm wine, we have to stop'.

Mahmoud lost his temper and tried to convince her otherwise. That day changed everything for all of them. Whether he raped her, whether she gave in to their shared passion, no one would ever know.
All he knows was that he came home an hour too late and Ada was leaving teary eyed. She never said anything but her eyes said it all. Their connection was broken just like that.

The relationship shut down. He never asked Mahmoud what happened.
It went to the grave many relationships of people from different tribe go. Ada's father would never have accepted Mahmoud. They have an Uncle who died in the Nigerian civil war. It ended abruptly

"Mahmoud, this life we live, is it enough?"

"How do you mean? Our job is to provide for our families and do the best we can to love them. That is our destiny; we don't need any other".

"Hmmm, you won't understand. I just know that I am not satisfied; the more I get, the more I want".

"My friend, Gbolahan, stop bothering yourself about things that don't matter".

The burden left him and they went on to enjoy the party.

***

Ada Okonkwo sat across the bay in a purple canopy. She was having a drink of orange juice. She was dressed in grey slacks and white jackets. She was having a meeting with one of her old friends from college days. She was 39 years old and successful in all areas. She had never worked a day in her life.
Her college days were bittter sweet, she was not sure how many relationships she made that added value to her life. College was all about having fun and enjoying her life with family and friends. She had never been good at relationships and now she didn't bother. All she needed was to make goals and meet them and rejoice at her success. She wasn't too sure how that was going. All she knew was that these days the dissatisfaction was killing her.

She wanted sometime more to fill the vacuum inside her. She belonged to charities because her younger sister insisted on adding her names to every charity that cropped up in Nigeria. She was married to one of the wealthiest eastern men in Nigeria. He had family in politics but had no intentions of ever been in politics. She had three beautiful children and managed to not lose her figure or self esteem. Unfortunately her zest for life was gone.

She wasn't the kind of woman who had affairs, it was just something about her principles.
Her Yoruba friend, Doyin had suggested she have an affair on one of her many trips abroad, she immediately felt distaste for the woman. She was woman enough to not want to revenge just because her husband did.

She looked down and saw his name on the screen of her silenced HTC phone.

"Hello dear"

She listened to his voice on the other end, her mind on the convo but her body disconnected from the conversation.
All these years and her husband still couldn't place her moods. He either didn't know or didn't care. She didn't know which was worse.

"Yes sir"

She looked over the people scattered at different small umbrella canopies. Anyone of them if not all were probably envying her at the moment. She envied them their freedom.

"Okay sir. I love you too"

In the public, everyone saw them as a perfect couple. They were almost that, he had never laid a hand on her, she could give him the credit that. He just never respected her as someone with a brain. He treated her like a kid. His verbal abuse was out of this world. When she was receiving verbal onslaughts in private, it erased the power of any praise he gave her at the public events and global meetings they attended.

She was complicated. She wanted more than he was willing to offer.

To him, she was his beautiful treasure, a trophy wife whether she wanted to be or not. She was a trained medical doctor but was condemned to never practising.

"Tade, book a flight to Gombe for me" she spoke authoritatively into the phone. "I need to see my husband"

"Thank you" She whispered into the phone.

She called home and asked Lara to pack her luggage ready and prepare someone to care for the property while she was in Gombe for two weeks. She asked her to take a break while she was away in Gombe. She was tired of all the charities for once.

Her numerous pharmacies were successful and located all over the country in choice location. They had qualified pharmacists in place to running them.
Maybe she needed a new hobby, something that would add life and meaning; she needed purpose but her husband was too blind to see.

Well she was done. She was the kind of person that could trade all this wealth for some money and a fulfilled life. She needed to find something to spend all her pent up energy on; she needed work.

"Are the tickets ready?" she asked in a satisfied voice as she picked up her once again ringing phone
"No, don't bother about that, I will pick them up at the airport for 7 pm, thank you"
.
*****
Somewhere on the other side of town, someone's life is changing forever. Bright Okopi is jumping up and down like an 8-year-old.

He has received the job that would metaphorically bail his family out of poverty.
He has no thoughts just yet, he is just happy that his dreams are finally picking up.
He just got the call. He made it.

He was to report for Monday, look in on Human Resources and then head to Port Harcourt for training.
He fell down on the chair and immediately called his pastor.

"Hello sir, I made the cut" he screamed into phone "I got the job, God really is good"

His pastor laughed on the other end. "Walk with God and He will show you His wonders, this is just the beginning"

"Yes sir" he laughed "sir I've never had a job. Can I come for some coaching on how to comport myself?"

His pastor paused then said, "You can come on Saturday, I'll teach you some principles on how to be the Joseph in your office, you'll soon be pleasing both God and your boss".

"Okay sir"

"Remember the giver of promotions is God and He gives to confirm the covenant He had with Abraham. Honour Him with you, your life and all that you have".

"Yes sir, I'll do that".

He cut the phone and ran to find his mother at the kitchen behind the house to inform her of the goodness he had just received.

"God, I am rich, I can finally say I am rich" he murmured as he went "this goodness is a confirmation of the covenant you have with Abraham; I recognise You as God, I am your people. I belong to you"

He looked up into the sky then dashed out to inform Mama Bright of their good fortune.
Maybe his dad would finally go to church.

Tessa Doghor

She is one of the leading Social Media Managers in Nigeria with the ability to foresee trends and build on it before it becomes commonplace. She is intelligent and strategic. She is also an amazing writer. To get in touch mail her at tessadoghor@gmail.com

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Tuesday, 13 May 2014

Onyema Edewo, 33, Festac Town, Killed by police....your part! #Best #For #Last

They say he was killed
He drove down to Festac with no incident
He survived the city
The robbers didn't get him
He was almost home and then he got his
It was an unlikely suspect
The police killed him.
They can't even say why
Hmmm
Its kind of sad.
Because it is a stone's throw from my house
Festac, I mean
I was even meant to pass that place around 9.15pm
Didn't.
But this isn't about me
It is about someone I don't know
A Nigerian
But
That's not it.
The issue is that people expect that to happen
They even place their faith in it
They say it happened around 11pm
Who? You may wonder
The newspapers and blogs and everyone else
Everyone's is eager to write and publish it, or read it
No one wants to be an agent of change
Innocent young men,
Their car broke down
They were towing it back to Festac
(In Nigeria, I think you're guilty until proven innocent cos you'll see the tow truck driver ran away to, only God knows where).
The driver of the tow truck recognised their intent and ran away (the policemen's intention)
They left Oyema and his friends to face the music (the police)
Doesn't this seem familiar?
It's something that can happen to anyone
You, me, your parents, or cousin
It has even happened to me and some friends
It made the news, the headlines
Sad thing is, I'm numb.
I read it but didn't feel much
Should I? Shouldn't I?
It's probably the response a bunch of others may have
Like most Nigerians, I'm afraid there might not be any justice
But I have to keep pressing!
Will there? Be justice, I mean.
I have to believe there will be justice
I pray the light bearers in this nation will stand
I pray that those who have callings for public offices will stand
Your calling is not just in the church
Our world needs 'Daniels' and 'Josephs'
We need people who are not afraid of the fire
We need people who are not scared of the consequences of saying 'no' to potiphar's wife
People who know that after the pit and the prison, there's a position that's never being created
The position of prime minister
Until then, the world is yearning
It's breathing, anticipating, waiting for you and I to become what/who God has said.
"God's agenda is men" - Dominion Mandate
God always sends a man
He sent you
You must recognise your worth and value
You must recognise your purpose
Your part/path
Only then will there be justice on the earth
I won't forget to say #BringBackOurGirls.
We want our girls back now
And lastly,
Like believers of my time
I believe things will/can only get better
It can only get better, BeTtEr, BETTER
This is what I believe!

Tessa Doghor

She is one of the leading Social Media Managers in Nigeria with the ability to foresee trends and build on it before it becomes commonplace. She is intelligent and strategic. She is also an amazing writer. To get in touch mail her at tessadoghor@gmail.com

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Oyema Odewor, 33, killed at Festac 3rd Gate...

Hmmm
Its kind of sad.
Because it is a stone's throw from my house
I was even meant to pass that place around 9.15pm
Didn't.

But
That's not it
The incident happened around 11pm
Innocent young men
Their car broke down
They were towing it back to Festac
The driver of the tow truck recognised their intent and ran away
They left Oyema and his friends to face the music

Doesn't this seem familiar?
It's something that can happen to anyone
Sad thing is, I'm numb.
Like most Nigerians, I'm afraid there might not be any justice
But I have to keep pressing!
Will there?

If we must, we must demand for it, just like the #ChibokGirls
234 of them. Or is it 276?
I won't forget to say #BringBackOurGirl
And lastly
Like believers of my time
I believe things will/can only get better

It can only get better, BeTtEr, BETTER

Tessa Doghor

She is one of the leading Social Media Managers in Nigeria with the ability to foresee trends and build on it before it becomes commonplace. She is intelligent and strategic. She is also an amazing writer. To get in touch mail her at tessadoghor@gmail.com

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Tuesday, 6 May 2014

Unwritten Rules: Chapter 3


Bright Okopi stood outside Doyle Energies. As usual he was out looking for a job as an engineer with a pay of N 350 000. He had arrived at the company at 6.30 pm in a bid to impress his would-be employers. He sat at the security post as he waited for the start of work.
Okoro and Alice, two security personnel on duty were kind enough to let him sit out the rain at the security post before the employees resumed.

"Fashola no dey try" said Okoro. "Why would he take food out of people's mouth?"

"He has a dream for Lagos," said Bright smartly spouting all that Babatunde Raji Fashola, the current governor of Lagos State had said.

"You don't understand," said Okoro "I think he is overdoing it. He drove the people selling recharge card home"

"...and when they could no longer sustain themselves he deported them back to their villages via luxurious buses" Alice laughed as she adjusted her cap on her head.

"How did I end up in Lagos?" asked Okoro.

Bright looked at him curiously, "What happened to you?"

"I didn't have money to finish my academics and so I came to Lagos to sell 'Okrika' at Yaba market"

"I hear it's a lucrative business"

"It was" Okoro answered Bright "...that was until Fashola's boys levelled my shop when they were changing the face of Yaba market".

"Hmmm" Alice smiled indignantly

"When I got stuck, and I wasn't able to pay my bills. I had to secure this job as a security man so I can pay my bills"

"Do you have plans of completing your education?"

"How?" Okoro asked. "The school fees keep rising and the numbers of people who can't hold on and drop out of college keep increasing"

"Let me tell you what happened in this Victoria Island" he continues without waiting for Bright to answer. "A food seller was constantly been harassed week after week by KAI".

"But they are doing their job, they have to, there are no sentiments when you are doing your job" Bright answered assuredly.

"That is what I thought too. They struck every week threatening her not to sell there again". He paused dramatically "...but instead of throwing the food away, they carted the pot of stew with assorted meat that is associated with local food sellers".

"So...there is nothing she can do" Bright sighed.

"Everyone pitied her but no one could do anything. One day she had the food poisoned and placed them on her sales table and kept some under the table for her customers. After the KAI officers had eaten her food, they dropped dead one by one".

"What?" Bright screamed as he shot of his seat.

He wanted to yell 'that is murder' but he remembered where he was. The two security officers obviously saw it as karma.

"When the other KAI officers turned up and tried to arrest her, the residents gathered and fought to save her".

"Wow" It was difficult to know where to stand in an issue like this, thank God he wasn't a lawyer. He continued with small talk but tried to stay off the gory stories as he awaited his interview hopefully.

***
Gbolahan Dada sat on his seat Sunday evening and watched the Presidential chat. As the president promised to do everything, as long as the parents of the Chibok children cooperate with the Federal Government in helping find their girls.

"This is what he should have done a long time ago"

Bimbo's soft-spoken voice broke into his thoughts. They had not spoken for weeks.
She hadn't been talking to him for weeks. He hid behind his silence because he suspected that his wife had discovered one of the letters from his mistress.

"His advisers are doing as much as they are qualified to do"

"It must be difficult to think when you are being bombarded from all sides by angry Nigerians" cut in his 14-year-old princess, Toke.

She was growing up so fast and a replica of her gorgeous mom.

"You are so smart, I think I must be doing something right" He laughed out loud then spoke to Toke "Get my ipad from the room, darling"

"It is here with me, Dad"

He stood and saw Toke dangling her legs in the air. She was lying behind the sofa on the rug clad floor and tapping unendingly on his iPad.

"Did you finish charging your daddy's iPad" Her mom jutted in.

"Yes mom" She shrugged her shoulders, stood up and held out the iPad to her father. "Here dad, take it".

She got up and headed for the stairs. "I am headed for my room, you two love-birds can stay up late" she yawned and continued upstairs.

"Hmmm" he smiled into his wife's eyes for the first time in weeks "Toke is growing up too fast for my liking"

"Uh huh" Bimbo said noncommittally. "In a year she will be in her final year and off to the university, she's not as young as you see her anymore".

Bimbo was wearing a navy blue bum shorts and an old T-shirt with her hair done in a weave. Gbolahan was in his customary white dashiki.

"I got you something from the presidents' daughter's wedding" he reached into his laptop bag and pulled out the gold plated iPhone.

"Thank you dear" she whispered the endearment she used for everyone.

Gone were the days when she used his special endearment. He remembered the early days of marriage and wondered why women had to hold on to every wrong like a pillow. It was killing the intimacy in their marriage or had succeeded in killing the joy of their marriage and he was trying but had no idea of how to bring back those early days.

"That all?"

"Do you want more?" she enquired. "I am thankful that you had me on your mind during your trip" she shrugged and got up with the package.

He shrugged, opened his laptop and began working on it absentmindedly "I will join you shortly," he shouted after her.

That was a lie. He did not intend to leave his laptop until 2 am when he must have exhausted all the solutions that had come to him. His wife could take care of herself.

Once she had accused him of feeling guilty and instead of apologising, he pulled away. Maybe true. Maybe not. He had lost his enthusiasm for this marriage. No one was trying. He did not feel like trying.
Maybe he should sext with Maryram, the air hostess on the Arik Air flight from PH to Lagos who was fascinated with his white hairs. He smiled as he picked up his HTC phone.

****
Tanya Whitehall was involved in the strikes that were holding. The whole saga of the #BringBackOurGirls wasn't flying over her head like other youth her age. She and her cousin's wife ran an NGO that had as one of its concerns righting the injustice against the female child. This seemed like a perfect opportunity to highlight the good; that her charity organization was doing.

She had collaborated with other groups to bring the ##Chibok girls back home to us. The dress code was a red t-shirt.

"Ughrr" she muttered as she felt the discomfort that accompanies high heels.

She had a field day with every one of the women in politics and business who were her personal heroes standing in front of the State House in Ikeja in a field insisting that the president do something about the Chibok girls. It has been over two weeks and no progress has been reported. It took all of the will power she had not to take selfies with each one of them and post on Facebook.

"Tanya, focus on the main thing now, you need to project professional"

She took professional pictures to post on Facebook, and to use as a portfolio to create a newsletter that got to the heart of the everyday busy individual.

"Thank you so much"

She grinned a popular pastor's wife in Ikeja. Some people were so humble. She prayed she was still humble when she became famous.

She read her last tweet and signed off twitter.

As usual, the media was ablaze with righteous indignation of the youths, at the government and the missing young ladies and how this couldn't happened in America without a retaliation. Silver bird TV just concluded their report on the girls. Tanya switched off the TV as the news ended. She noticed that while the NTA showed how the president had yesterday visited the secondary schools.

The Silver bird TV dwelt on the parents and how they were devastated that their children were in custody of the dreaded Boko Haram men.

"Do you know some silly people are actually saying that no #Chibok girls went missing? They are saying its a scam, read this". Christabel said as she thrust her phone under Tanya's nose.

"The must be from another planet. Why would someone invent something like that? Tanya sniffed as she read the tweets.

"Can you believe it?" Christabel huffed in righteous indignation.

"I don't think we should waste our time/emotions on trivial things, the Chibok girls need us now"

How insensitive could one get? She was going to wait and see for herself because in this country, anything was possible.

Tessa Doghor

She is one of the leading Social Media Managers in Nigeria with the ability to foresee trends and build on it before it becomes commonplace. She is intelligent and strategic. She is also an amazing writer. To get in touch mail her at tessadoghor@gmail.com

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Friday, 2 May 2014

For the fulfilment of dreams & visions, you need to be 'selfless'

I'm in a GTBank hall
Somewhere in Lagos
Waiting

I thought I knew the meaning
Of the word 'selfless'
I don't
I'm learning all over again

Selfless
Sounds boring
It's the stuff that births greatness

That's who I am
At least that is what God promised me
He said, "I will make you great"
He said it to Abram who's now Abraham
And Gal 3:29 says I am a partaker too
Because I am a part of the seed of Abraham (Christ)
I am in Him

That's one of the redemptive rights
Greatness
Been studying great men, of old and in my time
And they were all
Selfless

Like I said, I thought I knew the meaning of the word
But I'm discovering it all over again and I choose
To be 'selfless'
It's a key to my journey
Who God wants me to be
I'm grateful for all my trainers
I pray God blesses them all

(Not calling any names but God has sent me people sha and I'm a learner)

I also started writing a novel finally. You can find me at www.makingthemostofme.blogspot.com
I put up a new chapter every week, enjoy!

Tessa Doghor

She is one of the leading Social Media Managers in Nigeria with the ability to foresee trends and build on it before it becomes commonplace. She is intelligent and strategic. She is also an amazing writer. To get in touch mail her at tessadoghor@gmail.com

Have a lovely weekend too.
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Wednesday, 30 April 2014

Unwritten Rules: Chapter 2

"Gbolahan, its good being with you, my friend", murmured Alhaji, in his soft spoken Hausa accented English.

"Good to see you too sir" He responded.

No one could rival Alhaji Musa in hospitality, his integrity was second to none when it came to business matters. Alhaji Musa had flown into Port harcourt accompanied by Gbolahan in his private jet They sat down and discussed while the daughter of the president was busy sitting with her newly wedded husband, smiling happily for all to see.

Three musicians had been hired to play at her wedding. Flavor, Dbanj and IcePrince Zamani
He held his 24 carat gold customised iPhones and smiled at the no expense spared gifts distribution galore. He made a mental note to present the gift to his adorable wife as soon as he returned from his trip. As he kept his package, he silently mused on what he would give his 14 year old daughter Toke from the list of gifts.

She had called, screaming blue murder that he hadn't allowed her to attend such a prestigious event with him, and perhaps meet some eligible bachelors. He laughed at that but made a mental note not to take her to any events like this till she was 21.

"Great event, ba" laughed Alhaji with some other business men.

Gbolahan Dada followed his cue and laughed aloud also. His eyes followed Alhaji's eyes all over the room.

Alhaji turned to him, "After the wedding there's an after party with a few of Mr. President's close friends" he whispered. "We are invited. That's where I will make the introductions"

"Okay Alhaji" Gbolahan spoke discreetly

"Till then we enjoy this sophisticated wedding and think of the time we will soon have to throw weddings for our daughters, no?"

"Certainly" Gbolahan smiled, happy at the way everything was going.

*****

Bright Okopi laughed out loud as he moved the groundnut seeds around the sparse Ijebu garri in his metal white and brown plate that was popular in the 60s. He was sitting in a seedy apartment with one of his friends in the backwaters of Ebutte Metta.

The ice water voice of Lanre Ogunlana could be heard as he described crudely how he slept with one of his latest girlfriends with the five guys surrounding him.

Bright just quietly looked and kept eating his groundnuts. His mind kept ruminating on his pastors word.

"You are made in the image and likeness of God, you are made to rule this earth".

He kept thinking of it over and over again as Lanre kept on with another one of his escapades. He laughed to himself as he recalled his pastor counselling him, that such young men as Lanre would amount to nothing worth much because God has created sex to be used in the context of marriage.

"Wetin dey make this one laugh?" Lanre interrupted his reverie.

Bright Okopi just poured a bottle of 50cl healthmax water in his drying garri "Nothing, my brother. Just thinking about my life"

"You should now, I no dey see any girl around you, hunger no dey draw lagos girl..."

"So as you see me so, na hunger you dey see..." Okopi exploded angry. "Na because you no get vision now"

"Me I no get vision?" Lanre springs up in a yoruba man's stance to fight.

Bright remains on the floor, "All those women wey you dey carry don block your vision" he laughs coolly.

"You don see those 'Ojuju' movie reviews, your wowo resemble the one of that actor wey him girlfriend get belle" Lanre is being vindictive.

"Yes, you're very ugly and just as poor, na Ajegunle they dey live sef, you sef, na ajegunle you dey live".

"I hear you" Bright says smiling. "I may live in Ajegunle but I'm rich. I have access to the greatest resource owner on earth"

"Wale, this your boy dey craze! See hin shoe and hin trouser, as e dey and he dey talk say e rich"

"No mind am, hin don join those people wey dey carry Jesus for head"

Lanre collapses in laughter. "I think say you don tire for poverty. Why you just dey tie your head inside wahala?"

Bright resumes the drinking of his garri. He's still upset but at least, he was able to say he was rich. His pastor says 'You will have what you say" well baba God, I don dey talk am, what next?'

Somewhere inside him he felt at peace, the turmoil he had been feeling over his life just kept dissolving.

If it was just the peace, following Jesus was worth it. His pastor though, said wealth was one of the blessings he needed to enter into.

*****

Tanya rubbed her eyes in front of a computer screen, trying to sleep but finding none. As usual she declined opportunities to go out for a meal.

The life of an entrepreneur didn't have much free time. She went through the news online and the info she kept getting about the 234 girls missing was distressing. Was BH being funny? Nigeria's zip code was 234, the number of girls kidnapped from the terrorist occupied state Bauchi was also 234.

She laughed out loud at what Nigeria was doing about it. Nothing!

This country needed her. Christabel her best friend had started a school where they taught JAMB and SSCE students how to pass their exams. She just opened two new branches and was out looking for managers who could manage the students and teachers.

Trustworthy people were difficult to find, recruitment was always a headache because when you hired the wrong person, it meant that your monies would be embezzled.

A call came in on her Blackberry. She slipped her earphone in her ear and responded.

"Christabel, you no dey sleep"

She listened in rapt attention for some minutes.

"Hmmm, I think I will have to attend to that in the morning.......yeah, I need to be in school" she laughs, then jokes "How is your husband? My cousin who doesn't remember the one who gave him a wife".

She listens again, then "Okay, I'll have dinner with you tomorrow night and no, it should not be an excuse to arrange a blind date for me"

"Take care of the twins and goodnight"
*****

Tessa Doghor

She is one of the leading Social Media Managers in Nigeria with the ability to foresee trends and build on it before it becomes commonplace. She is intelligent and strategic. She is also an amazing writer. To get in touch mail her at tessadoghor@gmail.com

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Friday, 25 April 2014

Unwritten Rules: Chapter 1

Tanya Whitehall walked up the stairs of the science faculty of the University of Lagos. As she walked upstairs, she greeted each lecturer she saw. The particular lecturer she was looking for, prof Adedeji, told her he was in his office when she called an hour earlier. He was to be her project supervisor for the 9 month PGD programme she was running. She was clad in an orange-white flowery top and black pants with flat shoes.

"Good morning, ma" she greeted the light skinned faculty office secretary. She had some wrinkle lines at the edges of her eyes and her mouth. You could call her attractive, in a manner of speaking.

"Good morning my dear" she answered the greeting but didn't make eye contact.

Tanya continued. She wasn't taken aback because it was standard protocol in the reality of Unilag. The students weren't important unless there was some form of exchange going on. Schooling in a yoruba speaking state, that exchange would be called 'egunje'. It oiled the wheels of progress when you couldn't summon the time and persistent you would have to commit so that the regular office duties would be done. Her friend doing a masters in another department actually commended Science Faculty for being better than other department. She just snorted at that.

"Ma, I am looking for prof Adedeji..."

"You have to call him" she looked at her for the first time from horn rimmed glasses. "He rushed out of here 30 minutes ago to meet up with another appointment".

"Ok ma" she answered and turned around. In Unilag, it was customary to wait for hours on end for lecturers. If you didn't wait, you were termed unserious. "Can I wait here for him?"

She snorted in response. Tanya took that as a yes. She sat down and brought out her blackberry phone to update her twitter status with 'a long wait ahead of me' then started browsing through facebook. When her phone started hanging, she dropped it and began day-dreaming about the Nokia XI with amazing camera properties, that wouldn't hang and had the bbm advantage.

She adjusted her feet, crossed and uncrossed her legs, then adjusted till she was comfortable enough for the long wait.

******

Bright Okopi was one of those guys from the south-south with barely there dreams. The only important thing about the dream was that it still got him up at 5am, up and about and hustling. He graduated from the university 3 years ago and was yet to get a stable job. Being an engineer should mean something, least that is what he believed when he wrote JAMB 5 times before finally being admitted into UNIBEN to study engineering. He was the envy of many, all through school because he always aced his courses. And when he couldn't, because of some really terrible lecturers, being a class rep worked wonders for him. He finished with a 2 1'.

Where was the envy now? He was coming back from another failed interview. Just remaining the disdainful look of the HR told him he hadn't made it into that engineering firm. Too many creme boys with letter from mommy/daddy/uncle. He almost cursed his parents for being poor. Only the memory of his pastor telling how important the law of honour was stopped him.

"I no wan add curse to the one wey I already dey" He muttered under his breathe as he adjusted and grimaced, all kinds of smells reaching his nose from the people and his environment in the rickety bus headed for Ajegunle.

He lived at No. 14 Gbegiri street Ajegunle with his parents, two siblings and two cousins. They were 'managing'. He hated the word 'managing' but his circumstances and looks and environment spoke of deep poverty. The people were ugly inside and out and dressed it, looked it, embraced it. They even insulted themselves early in the morning at 6am, at noon, at 6pm and at midnight.

They probably saw nothing wrong with poverty. His pastor said, 'to conquer poverty, you must hate poverty, not the people but the thinking. Poverty is a thinking. By the word you must rise out of it. He had only been attending the church for 6 months but having a mentor who believed in him was refreshing. He heard his pastor's voice in his head say, 'Christ has redeemed you from the curse of the law, don't let your environment defeat you. Speak God's mind, say 'I am rich'.

He didn't know how much he believed his pastor or if he believed him at all. He knew that if he made a mistake of screaming 'I am rich', all the contrary people around him would laugh till they cried because their environment was screaming poverty, just not with words.

He bowed his head down and muttered "I am rich".

A dark skinned lady with bright purple eye shadow and bright red lipstick asked him, "what did you say?"

He turned and looked out the window saying nothing. The streets of Lagos passed before his unseeing eyes.
 
******

Mr Gbolahan Dada sat at his table, reading through 2.0 lenses at the paperwork on his desk. He dropped into the office and would be leaving in another 3 hours. He needed to sign some papers before leaving for Abuja on the 2pm flight. His driver informed him that they would have to leave for 10.30 if they wanted to make the flight. He glanced through, signed the papers and called his p.a to tidy up his desk.

As he walked to his champagne coloured Range Rover Sport. He climbed in and made two calls, one to his wife and the second to his mistress. He didn't call mama much these days, his eyes never could meet hers.

Her eyes could read deep into his soul. Even though she never spoke a word, he felt judged by those piercing clear sincere eyes. In the world he now lived in, sincerity was a liability and not an asset.
He shrugged off the bothersome thoughts and comforted himself with the words.

'Everyone is doing worse these days'.

He remembered Alhaji Sambo who he did business with, the man just took a fourth wife, a 12 year old. No one as much as batted an eyelid when they saw it. They assuaged their consciences with the lie that 'his customs allow it, let's live and let live'.

He wished for simpler days when all he had to worry about was if he remembered to spend time with His God?

He shrugged and caught some shut-eye before the next meeting to fulfil his goal of success. He stretched out his white dansiki clad body and stretched to catch some sleep in the popular Lagos traffic.

Bako would wake him up as soon as he got to the VIP lounge of the Lagos airport.

Tessa Doghor

She is one of the leading Social Media Managers in Nigeria with the ability to foresee trends and build on it before it becomes commonplace. She is intelligent and strategic. She is also an amazing writer. To get in touch mail her at tessadoghor@gmail.com

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Tuesday, 22 April 2014

Laying aside every weight!

There's a way to run the race of life
There's a way to operate in the kingdom
There's a way to worship unfettered by the cares of the world.
The church talks about sin endlessly
But no one talks about the weights of unforgiveness, criticisms, fear, malice, competition, offence.....
All of these things will feel the weight and the wrath of the law
These things can creep in unknowingly but sometimes you have made room for them in your heart
And unwittingly given them power over you and over YOUR VICTORIOUS CHRISTIAN LIFE
I always used to quote at one time: God wants you to live a victorious Christian life
He doesn't want you defeated or hindered
It is still truth
It is your inheritance/your harvest to live a victorious Christian life
The weights will stop you, argue all you want
Your only option is to lay them down
The moment you decide to lay them down
The Spirit of God will start working to help you pull down those layers
So you can worship unfettered and walk in authority.
Only by authority can you rule on earth
If you lose your authority, anger will rule over you
Fear will camp at your doorsteps
And everything else the unbeliever suffers
Gal 5: 22-23 ends the lists of the fruit of the Spirit with "Against such there is no law".
The fruit of the Spirit produces life.
Gal 5:19 -21 list the fruit of the flesh, the result of being under the control of the flesh and under the control of the devil, each one has a penalty under the law. Walking in the flesh allows the enemy activate the penalty of the law over your life.
This is why it is so important to walk in love. The devil CANNOT afflict you with sickness when you are walking in love. Love is a shield and a protection from the curse of the law. Christ has redeemed you from the curse of the law. Stay in His love. Lay aside those weights, nothing is worth your right to divine life. Nothing can stop you when you are walking in love.
I commit to walking in love and being led by the spirit. I decree that there is no room for the fruit of the flesh in my heart. All I have room for is the fruit of the spirit. Glory, Halleluyah.
I had an awesome retreat by the way. Its time to take action and put the things I have learned and received to work. Glory to God.

Tessa Doghor

She is one of the leading Social Media Managers in Nigeria with the ability to foresee trends and build on it before it becomes commonplace. She is intelligent and strategic. She is also an amazing writer. To get in touch mail her at tessadoghor@gmail.com

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Saturday, 12 April 2014

Just thinking as usual

Looking through the internet at AW Tozers 'The Pursuit Of God' and wondering if my life resembles what his was. Every one is unique though and so I guess maybe not. Major differences, first off, he's male, lives in a different generation, blah blah blah!

There must be similarities because I know pursuing God is not something you did in the past or last week, it is a present continuous thing for what purpose can be found in living a life void of God? There are some quotes that would touch you if you are born again or give you a taste of following an unseen but all powerful, all consuming, all loving God. I know a lot of people want to see the consuming fire-God but I believe Jesus died so we can see the all-loving God.

An awesome truth is that loving God would make you hate sin. So I am not approving of sin in any manner. In christendom, you are always stuck defending your position on one thing or the other rather than being devoted to God with your time, resources and wherewithal. What do you think of trousers? How about weaves? Hmmm what about gay people? The religionists, the legalists and the gracists?

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These days I just focus on this scripture: 
6 "But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him." Hebrews 11:6

Pleasing God includes having faith. Don't get distracted with the dos and donts. Seek Jesus daily. Worship. Praise. Pray. Consecrate yourself. Do the word. Stay in faith.

EXTRACTS FROM THE PAGES OF THE BOOK

 Make your heart a vacuum and the Spirit will rush in to fill it.  p. 12  

I know and love the Holy Spirit. I am glad. Do all that you can to ensure that you don't live a life void of the Holy Ghost. And as I write, my spirit says, 'this is likely as note to self'. Okay. Noted.

Why doesn't the sky fall down? Why is it that stars and planets do not go tearing apart and ripping off into chaos? Because there is a Presence that makes all things consist - and it is the Presence of the One who upholdeth all things by the Word of His power. This is basically a spiritual explanation, for this universe can only be explained by spiritual and eternal laws.  p. 74

Hmmmm! The word of God can do many things. I have experienced some, and I am eager to experience more of the power of the word. I would rather experience the word a thousand times than just teach it. Convincing people has never been my forte. Spending time with God is more like it. The word of God has power, read it expecting to not just see but to experience its power.

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Retreat time, coming up. Lord Jesus. Thanks. Fun time. Discovery time. Play time. Singing time. Dancing time. Time spent with God, with the Holy Ghost is always indescribable. Looking forward to it.



Let me share two quotes:
Hold loosely all that is not eternal.  ~Agnes Maude Royden p. 21
God works powerfully, but for the most part gently and gradually.  ~John Newton p. 58

Read this link http://timchavel.blogspot.com then search for AW Tozer


Tessa Doghor

She is one of the leading Social Media Managers in Nigeria with the ability to foresee trends and build on it before it becomes commonplace. She is intelligent and strategic. She is also an amazing writer. To get in touch mail her at tessadoghor@gmail.com

Friday, 14 March 2014

God's got me!

God has a divine influence on my heart. His divine influence is always upon my life. I can always see his hand working in all the areas of my life and family (nuclear and extended). His hand isn't too short to protect. He's shown me a thousand times.

So long as I'm obeying the instructions of the Holy Spirit, and I am rightly positioned, He is able to do what He desires.

Favour attracts enemies
Hmmm
The God who brought the favour planned for the enemies also. He will see His desire on them
So will I.

I am safe in the bubble
I am safe in God's divine will
Protected and preserved

I serve the God who rules in the affairs of men and he is ruling on my behalf
My own is to do what He says and just watch the grand things happen and give Him the glory for it all.

Things are happening very quickly
Opportunities on all sides
Businesses are growing supernaturally
The supernatural is operating in the areas God has sent it for
Good, good things abound

The enemy is subdued.

'I am walking in the spirit'
I am manifesting the fruit of the Spirit
With the help of the Holy Ghost
All I see is glory
The glory of God on the earth
Awesome!
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Thursday, 6 March 2014

Dream big! It's worth it.

I have sometimes found it difficult to dream
Cos I used to see a black hole
Cos I once confided that I couldn't see tomorrow
What does tomorrow look like?
What should it look like?
That was just till I discovered the solution

When all you see is this world
Hmmm, it is a very narrow view you're using
You should be seeing like the eagle, seeing 360 degrees.
Train your eye to look for God
The bible says His eye is running to and fro the earth to see who He can be strong on their behalf
I'm not physically strong, not very tall or fat so it is easy for me to trust in God's own strength

I don't dream as easily as I used to
But I guess that's expected cos I shifted my focus away
Going back to the basics about God
He is who He says He is.
I'm going to trust Him more

When you ask me now, 'What do I see?'
I know no fear
I know it is an important time and question
Because faith speaks and we have what we say
At least I have what I say
Because my spirit is alive to God
And he recognises me as a priest and a king to Him
I also recognise myself as a priest and a king to God
So I'm bridling my tongue
And learning the ways of God
I speak knowing how God operates and what He has provided for
I am conscious of my heavenly citizenship
I am a citizen of Zion, the angels are conscious of it too
So I conduct myself as a daughter of the king.
I am a daughter of the king
God's prized possession
A kingdom representative whom God places high value on
I speak only the way I know God will speak

How do I know how God will speak
I am reading my bible daily
Not for do's and don't's but so I would learn God's way

Happy New Month
Favourable March for me and mine
How about you?
What are you going to say?

He will take your word for it
His angels too.


Tessa Doghor

She is one of the leading Social Media Managers in Nigeria with the ability to foresee trends and build on it before it becomes commonplace. She is intelligent and strategic. She is also an amazing writer. To get in touch mail her at tessadoghor@gmail.com

So long people's
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Friday, 28 February 2014

Last Week In February

Hey

What happened this week sef
Bills, bills, bills
Thinking of my childhood when they were no worries about bills
I will get past this point
I intend to make it to the other side
God gives His energy to His word
So I am thankful because his word is working good for me

On the a lighter side @worshipandswag sent me my book 'Colliding with Destiny by @sarahdjakes. She'd sent it since ending of January, let naija post allow it reach my house nau.

She sent it. She kept mailing me. Have you gotten it? I'm like, 'I haven't o' (I'm using corner eye to wonder if she actually did send it, but its not polite to ask, what is my own sef? Don't trust much these days, 'Holy Ghost, help your daughter')

Finally I'm in the bathroom doing number 3 and they ring up my phone and say its the post office, my sister picks the phone and answers the call, if not I will just miss the call.
Any ways I come back upstairs and she says my book is finally here.

I'm busy all of last week so this week, after seeing a client, I head to the post office in Satellite to pick up my package. I'm feeling like someone receiving 'yankee' package. I don't even look at people very well, I greet sha. I collect the package and barely two houses from the post office, I'm pulling out my bright yellow long awaited book. Still have to rush to another client to work on a magazine.

I keep reminding myself of the on going book project I am working on. Probs is today is kinda Friday and I'm yet to see the book. My sister (the one who answered the call is hoarding it and she doesn't like books; she normally can't sit down to read a book, she's reading and reading and reading)
Well guess the book is that impactful...imma read it when I get the chance, we will probably read it at the same time.

Well that's my week


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Friday, 21 February 2014

United Nigeria?

The final message:

Osaro Osarodion struggled and moved into position. He was searching for his travelling bag amidst all the numerous bags that had fallen all over the buses. He needed his mobile phone. He might not make it but he wanted the people at home to know what happened.

He was a youth of promise but he had seen his dreams go up his flames when his house and business got burnt down on the same night. He looked through the windows of the overturned bus thinking, 100 men couldn't lift it up. He watched as hausa youths gathered outside their windows, with jerrycans full of precious kerosene. As the youth began coming, he read connected on his mobile phone and as the tears poured down, he said:

"Mama, e die wa. E wa te s' Edo, hausa mui ma who de, e so wa, ta m' Osaze, no ya ta me Odionwe. 'Hausa gbi ma wa. E e so wa'.

The words are translated:
(Mother, I was coming home. Before I got to Edo State, the Hausas ambushed us on the way. Tell Osaze, let him tell the oldest man in the village. The Hausas have killed us. I will not reach home).

This is the kind of message that caused the Edos to take to the streets killing the Hausas who are safe in Edo State. Less is enough to cause foreign Presidents and leadership to worry. Bauchi is burning and our leaders are at ease. Nigerians await action and still wait.

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Pic by VOAnews.com/Heather Murdock


The above is a true life story but the names are fictitious.


Tessa Doghor

She is one of the leading Social Media Managers in Nigeria with the ability to foresee trends and build on it before it becomes commonplace. She is intelligent and strategic. She is also an amazing writer. To get in touch mail her at tessadoghor@gmail.com

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