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Friday, 31 October 2014


See what Google thinks of me
It is flattering...
Thank God I already loved Google
Else I would have had to leave Bing and AskJeeves for

That's all really for today.

I am in a good place, secure under the shadow of His wings, me and mine and our destinies are safe in His hands.


Thursday, 30 October 2014

I am a blogher 'Social Media Influencer' and October ends with a blast! (Not bomb o!) You know what I mean

Yay! I am a blogher social media influencer. Look at the tag on the right corner of my blog and I am so proud of that achievement. Blogher finally noticed me. One Big Win! (I got another one).

I applied to be a part of their network in January and I got rejected. I was hurt. I recouped and continued doing my thing, I mean they must not know how good I am. Why would they say no? I am glad they said no anyways. I prefer being a social media influencer than having my blog content controlled, It may kill my creativity and then my heart would go into hiding for another six years, no way. 
Here's a post that I know made the Catholics in my network  mad at me. It is here. Here is another where I wrote about domestic abuse (and other kinds of abuse) and how to get help. It is here. I know how they would feel because I once walked out of one of Pastor Eskor of City of David's meetings because I was mad at him for saying that Catholics were going to hell. In case you have never bothered about your eternal destiny, you should. Jesus is real, you should at least research where you would end up without Him, wouldn't you like to know?

There is a gift of a cartoon somewhere in that post. Let me help you with the specific blogpost. The gift is called Shuga. While I don't agree with everything that was in the cartoon, the helplines work after you have read the very interesting story. I got the gift Shuga from Judith Audu, pretty lady, actor, wife and many other things she is dedicating her life to. Here is her blog. Click here. Here is her personal blog, we happened to go to the same primary school. What is that? It is a small world. Tessa, you really need to follow the trends. He he he. 
I am a Christian and having Christ colors obliterates my opinions and I am happy with it. Can you imagine? I never though I would get here, to this place where I am willing to do what He says and not instinctively shrink back or fight back and rebel. God took the fight out of me and I willingly submit to Him.

Back to the topic of the day.

I was generally browsing and seeing some of the nasty stuff BBC wrote about Nigerians. It pissed me off and I mouthed off at them - really polite of course. I informed that we were 170 million and I know that even one percent of us (Nigerians) are not scammers so it is very unprofessional to be describing 170 million Nigerians as scammers because of a small fraction who scam others.

Whatever I eventually got to answer one of their other silly questions targeted at getting something akin to tweet fights out of Facebook.

Here's the question: 

How difficult is it, creating compelling content? Phew!

I don't blog much these days, I blog but hardly from the core of me.

I look for somewhere in between that will be acceptable to most of the people. 
Well I didn't give a hoot what BBC was saying? They wanted to drag all the feminists and the chauvinists out of their corner and some may have forgotten in the fray that ensued that they were now Christians and neither for or against gender equality.

I just focused on how rather than the men/women argue about equality or non-equality they should be talking about how we need fathers who will stand up and be courageous. Who will stand up for what is right and not tale the politically correct way out. Fathers who will stand up for righteousness and right doings, who will stand for the weak and the poor and not think of reputation as better than character. Long story short we need authenticity more than we need pretense. God is the builder of institutions and he is able to build institutions with great foundations and lasting value if we will surrender and do right according to Isaiah where he talks about the kind of fast that is acceptable to Him.

I left the battle of the sexes behind when I got filled with the Holy Ghost, He never fails to let me see the way to go. He has His ways of communicating to me what He is pleased and

Read my blog post about women and domestic abuse and how we need men to get involved here.

Agreed. We need men who will mentor the next generation of men and lead them right because men mostly receive mentoring from other men, to a great degree and in certain areas only a father can call out the man in his son.

Read "courageous" or watch it. Men who have trained their tongues to be graceful/salted with grace (in the public and in the private) are not only very attractive but they influence their generation for good.

That word 'women's rights' can be confusing. The men should take the lead in doing good and stopping evils like a man getting away with rape because the men stand with them or getting away with being a pedophile because the men gather and decide to lie or getting away with murder because the men gather and decide to lie. We need men who can stand up for what is right and not choose to preserve tradition over people. Men must take the lead and speak up against what is wrong. When I wasn't born again, I was quick to join any wagon that wanted to help but I am older and wiser and I know that things will not work until they are done, God's way and God expects the men to lead and to be just enough to be like Solomon who judged right all the time so much so he was known all over as the wisest king.

 Tessa Doghor is a social media manager in Lagos and manages the blog

Tuesday, 28 October 2014

Some of the proof I have that the pope (Pope Francis) is wrong

Here is the article that didn't surprise me.

I believe that there is a conspiracy theory to unite the earth and give us that long hoped for world peace. Of course I am not in this category of people. I am Christian. The one thing every genuine Christ cares about should care about is the second coming of Christ and by the signs on the earth we know that it is not far off although we do not have a specific date.

I will not be putting up the pope's picture but I recall at the beginning of this year after prime minister Sharon died that one pope stepped down for health reasons, as a child staunch catholic I know that that doesn't happen. My sister just predicted that the politicians were probably pressuring him to accept gay marriage. As much as I am tolerant of other people's, it beats me why someone who is gay would want to carry out an ordinance of God. God created marriage, if you don't believe in him, why would you want to carry out an ordinance that would turn out to be a curse for you. Marriage is a covenant between three people, the man, the woman and God.

You would have to have been blind, deaf and dumb to not notice that when something doesn't please God, you get outside His covenant and outside His protection. Now imagine trying to get blessed by someone you claim not to believe in. Sin, not God destroys (Long story, explanation is another day). I believe that holiness preserves.

Gal 5:22 ends with "against these things there is no law".

The law punishes. If you are walking in the spirit, walking after the spirit, you will not be in sin or fall into sin and you would be confident in your prayers because you know that faith pleases God and you are living by faith and have access to God's presence and His mercy, grace, favour et al. You have access to your inheritance. You are living under the grace of God. You have the power to live above sin and you are living about sin, living in God's presence and dominating this earth to the degree that God desires you to. The long and short of the story is that homosexuality does not please God.

Let me get back to the subject in place which is that the pope is trying to rationalize all the religions of the earth and get world peace. Be vigilant, don't let anyone steal your inheritance with fables. Don't pursue peace so much that you accept a lie as truth because truth is an armor that is very important in your daily life.

The Catholic Church no longer teaches creationism - the belief that God created the world in six days - and says that the account in the book of Genesis is an allegory for the way God created the world.

Is this true? Does God change beliefs? Whatever you believe, you will live by. 
What does evolution mean? Does that mean I was a monkey? Or what? Being a biologist, I know that evolution doesn't  doesn't end. So why have we not evolved in the last 6000 years? 

Or is it a choice to evolve to a vampire werewolf? The Christians remain the same. What exactly is he talking about? Is he challenging the character of God

William Tyndale didn't die for nothing. Get a Dakes Bible and a concordance so that you can know for yourself, stop wondering if you are a monkey or a wolf, you are a new creation in Christ Jesus.

Genesis 1:1-3
It speaks of the creation of the earth. I have read it so many times and I know it is not symbolism. It is exactly how the earth was created. The earth existed before the count of time. Some ministers call it 'dateless past' because time was not counted before then. Time began to be counted after Gen 1:3. There were some 6000 years before Christ were gone and it is called B.C. There have been some 2000 years after Christ has died and that time is called A.D. Christ is risen and seated at the right hand of God and He is coming again soon. 

Heard of the movie A.D? It speaks of the trials and triumphs of the early church.
Following the resurrection of Christ, through 70 A.D.
Witness the trials and triumphs of the early church from the book of Acts! An outstanding follow-up, picking up where The Passion of the Christ leaves off!

"Touched by God". I think this is an apt description of me. And No I am not writing a book just yet. I have yet more things to experience but I will eventually get around to writing that book. For now I will write just snippets of stuffs. This movie touched me too. It is a Christian movie; the real one.

The Good Lie

Friday, 24 October 2014

If we did all the things we are capable of doing...

If we did all the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves - Thomas A Edison

I got this from a book titled "The Success Principles: How to Get From Where You are To Where You Want To Be" by Jack Canfield

The first lesson in the book is to take 100% responsibility for your life.

As I am talking some people are probably thinking what about if you have home trouble. He is not talking to some people with this book, he is talking to everyone. He says, "Take 100% responsibility for your life".

Plus those times when you think the devil's from your village are trying to stop you, yes. At all times take 100% responsibility because then you can do what you think while God does what He can.

One minister who inspire me a lot says, "There's nothing stopping you from becoming what God wants you to become".

You are a KING. Jesus made you one with the new birth. Don't let anyone mock it out of you. Agree with God. Your ruler-ship on earth depends on you accepting this truth. 

I lived all of 2013 believing that there was something stopping me from becoming what God wants to be. I was praying all through the year but my beliefs were not lining up because I was not responsible for 100% of my life. I was not taking responsibility. I left loose ends everywhere. I evaluated the year and I was not satisfied and I didn't want 10 more years like that and I believe God promise that He made to Abraham is also to me and so I decided that I wanted change.

Kings exercise dominion over the earth and not over other people, they bring heaven to earth by obeying Kingdom principles (Anyone remember the sermon on the mount, you think it will make you weaker but you are actually stronger).

I made a U-turn and decided to start over, I decided to take responsibility for my life that as God and the angels are doing their part, I should be doing my part also and responding to the provision from heaven and that even if I think some forces are against me, I must, I choose to trust that the whole of heaven is for me and I should act that way if not I will not see the provision that God has made and that opposition should make me move even faster than I am moving now. God is restoring but if I don't believe, I won't see or experience the things that He is restoring. That even if all the devils of hell come against me and mine, the forces who cast them out of heaven are greater than them and those forces are for me.

When man fell from grace, he lost the glory. With new birth, we got the glory back, we are crowned with glory and honor.

"Greater is He who lives in you than he who lives in the world"

You can either tell a sob story or you can chart a course with God's help to get to the place that He intended to take you to when he made you.

Stand up today and take 100% responsibility for your life, for all the areas of your life.

Creation: Genesis 1-3 Meditate on it!

Confession: "There is nothing stopping me from becoming all that God wants me to be"

If this is truly so, let us today do all the things that we are capable of doing, write them down and accomplish them. If you are spiritual (a heir of salvation who has experienced new birth in Christ and been washed in the blood of Jesus), that is great, all of heaven is backing you today, you can't be stopped. If you aren't spiritual, do all that you are capable of, don't let fear, procrastination, selfishness, anger stop you. Don't be mediocre, invest 3% of your income in developing yourself, become great and change the world (although I pray that you would come to the knowledge of Christ crucified).

Don't let nothing stop you, you are created to rule the earth, Gen 1:26

25th November is the day to speak against Violence against women and the logo is the white ribbon. Read the cartoon Shuga here. It is interesting and has ways to help you discover if you are in an abusive marriage or relationship and how to get help. There are numbers you can call and safe houses they can keep you and you can get a restriction order so that an abuser does not keep stalking you. Get the law involved and be safe.

Tessa Doghor is a social media manager in Lagos and manages the blog

Tuesday, 21 October 2014

Reeva Steenkamp was murdered on Valentines day in 2013 by her boyfriend Oscar Pistorious

They looked fabulous together.
She is not quite reed thing, she look fabulous and even though he literally has no legs (he was amputated at 11 months) he still looks good in a suit.

I read the full story here

From the text messages that were read out in court, they were saying all the right things to themselves so I wonder why they had to end up like this on valentine day of all days.
No one is more aware of the word 'love' on valentine day. Heck on valentine I don't expect three to six bullets to enter into my body through a bathroom door. And after all is said and done, I get no justice. That happened to Reeva but I can feel the pain of her parents. It's not fair.

It is done though. She is dead and buried. I am sure her bones remain but there is no flesh left definitely and the man who killed her will spend 10 months in prison and then house arrest for the remaining 4 years and 2 months.

She is so pretty and I have so much advice to give her but it's too late, she has lived her life. Oscar will live with the memories because as one soldier said to another in a movie I watched "Do you think it is easy to kill another human being?" So even if he is callous or really sorry, he will live with the memories of what he has done.

I should feel some satisfaction that he's going to jail if only for ten months but I feel nothing. I just wonder if Reeva had known eternal life? Did she?
I wonder if Oscar would want to have eternal life? Would he?

All that happens from birth to death, if you don't meet with Jesus, it would all just be a waste of time and a waste of human life for them not to encounter eternal life.

Monday, 20 October 2014

I refuse to be a plain old complainer when I should be causing change...

I love change.
I love development.
I love it when people understand government and dominion
If you ride in buses, you will still hear some people complaining
Some of the things that we thought could not happen in Nigeria are already happening.

Watch this video to see what I mean. click here

So you can become a part of the people changing Nigeria or remain with the people who think that it cannot be done.

On the other hand, I just saw this video and I was touched.
I love it when Christians pray. I know the media loves to portray people in a bad light but I also love to see the good in people. 
Tyler Perry said, "When God speaks, you move".
There is a confidence that comes from hearing God speak, no one can break that confidence.

This reminds me of my post on #lindaikeji and buying your own domain so that you can be trusted and project professionalism here

2014 is a time when people don't trust pastors much. Even I have lost faith in pastors, many. BUT because I have a relationship with God I have not lost faith in God.
I have been in Christendom long enough to know that God has to speak through someone on earth and that God values spiritual authority so in order to stay in God's will, I forgive every pastor who has proved to me that they are still men and I give them room to be human. 
I choose to receive from God's servants even though they may be imperfect. They are not God but they are men/women through whom God speaks.

I release them to be human and yet my Spirit is attuned to the Holy Ghost enough to know when they have a message from God for me. I choose to live a life of forgiveness because my destiny is worth it. I am letting everyone off the hook by the grace of God. Every subconscious or conscious unforgiveness I let go in Jesus name, amen. 

A light heart, an unfettered heart, a heart that is able to love, forgive, do good and impact the people on earth for God's sake is worth it. I refuse to play in the devil's playground.

Loved these two videos. I am only sanctified because of the blood of Jesus and I trust that the blood of Jesus can cleanse others so instead of judging, I will preach the gospel that can set them free.


Some words:
  1. 1.
    able to be done or achieved.
    "surely it's not possible for a man to live so long?"
    synonyms:feasible, able to be done, practicableviable, within the bounds/realms of possibility, attainable, achievable, realizable, within reach, workable,manageableMore

  2. 2.
    that may exist or happen, but that is not certain or probable.
    "the possible effects of global warming"
    informalon the cards
    "there was another possible reason for his disappearance"
  1. 1.
    a potential candidate for a job or team.
    "I have marked five possibles with an asterisk"

Just dwell on the word and then apply it to the obstacles in your life or to the oppositions coming against your destiny and know that God is backing you.

"There is nothing stopping us from becoming what God wants us to be"
"There is nothing stopping us from achieving what God wants us to achieve"

I had spent a week hearing what couldn't be done, what the obstacle was. Strange thing about me, you can communicate with words an idea and a thought and I can pick the things that you aren't saying. So I spent all week hearing this stuff and hearing about the boundaries that are naturally imposed and by last night I had heard enough to be mad angry in my spirit and that is where the above quote came from. Our earthly location is fond of telling us what we can do and what we can't do but only if we accept that lie is it activated in our life, in this case, in my life and my declaration is that "there is nothing stopping me or mine, our doors are open..." All over us, the earth is adjusting, the spiritual is backing us, everywhere we go, men and women are standing up to help us fulfil God's will for our lives. All the saints are gathering and true servants of God always adjust to do God's will, those men, those women that are sent to us receive supernatural help to do what only the supernatural can.

By grace and with the help of the Holy Spirit, i subdue any and every opposition that comes against me and mine in the name of Jesus amen. Any contrary power, every contrary assignment, I bring them under the government of heaven, they will be like Xerxes until they accomplish the will of God concerning us in the name of Jesus, amen.

Anything is possible for me in Jesus name, amen. I am aligned with God's purpose and I am one with God's spirit therefore I function with the wisdom of God always in Jesus name, amen. Plus what I know about, plus what I don't know about, it is working together for the good of me and mine in Jesus name, amen.


All pictures are courtesy

Thursday, 16 October 2014

I wrote this post last week but I was too busy to send it, and I didn't want to send it unedited...

Mine was pretty tough
Not enough time
That is typically the expectation for my age
I will have time enough to rest when I am old and grey.

My first WOW DIVAS. The pretty lady next to me is Ola Awodipe. She is Noir Diva. 

Good news
Versatile Nigerian invited me to share my story here:
It is a humble one but I am certain it will bless someone.
I promise you, I will write from my heart.

Bad News:
They took Linda's blog down

Good News
I just heard that this is what she was earning. Read it yourself.

Linda Ikeji, owner of one of the top ten most visited websites in Nigeria, is generally quiet about her income, but it is estimated at about $900,000 (N140m), revenue generated from ads and sponsored content. 

Eventually found out the following week that her site was brought down and everyone got talking on how important it is to build your house. Later found out that it was a ruse. They needed traffic for their blogs, they needed Nigeria to get talking and I was actually impressed by their publicist skills.
I also built my house at

Bad News

I can't remember any. Okay let me say I was really sad to hear that they were robbing at Ijora yesterday. I was safe on Orile road when I heard the gist. But then my safety doesn't depend on the road I am on, the One who looks after me doesn't slumber or sleep, He is too alert to sleep on the job. He has promised to take care of me and mine and I am holding Him to His word.

Good news

There is a lot of work to do this week. This was last week. This week is awesome. I have a lot of social media strategies to put to work, analyze and rework. I am expecting amazing strategies to spring out of my grey matter and much profit and I know that it is coming.

Looking dazzling!

Last weekend I was at the wow divas meet at the Oriental Hotel.
WOW DIVAS means 'Women of Worth Divinely Inspired Victorious Anointed Sisters

Random day at work

By the grace of God I qualify to be a wow diva. I had a great time listening to other divinely inspired and anointed sisters. It is awesome to know that you have worth. Those who do not know are a problem to themselves and their world because they don't know their purpose. Just look at the pics.

For enquiries about wow diva: visit

I remember having a vision of working with women, something I wrote down about the areas I would like to impact the world, something I have a heart for and a passion to drive me. I sense God is leading me somewhere, Holy Spirit help me learn what I need to know o. I know how much I sometime like to drive myself instead of letting the Spirit of God lead me. Don't let me go the wrong way. I prefer it when you are the one deciding the coordinates of my life, I am not very good with a map.

I don fine sha, even though I no dey smile at least my heart dey smile.

Here are some of the pictures taken:

Fabulous wow divas
Their twitter account is @iWomanofWorth or email to learn about the Women of Worth.

P.S. I manage this site

The pretty lady in black and blue is the owner of the site written above. The wow divas thingy is her vision. It is absolutely amazing. Women are doing things o. God knows He can trust us with money and other things. She is at @udookonjo on twitter.

The other two ladies are Christians too.

The first one got to know intimacy with God when she was in a car accident and was paralysed for 2 years. She used to be on her face before God worshipping Him. We need God o. It would be great to learn to be intimate with Him without adversity. She is at @yodifiji on twitter

The lady in the middle is the phenomenal Dr. Ada Igonor who survived Ebola. She is at @DrAdaora on twitter.

One of the things you can learn is how to be an entrepreneur, learn what rich people know instead of trying to beg them for money. How long are you going to beg? That is not sustainable. Personally I have suffered rather than begged because i know what my destination looks like. I would work/serve till I get there because "Kings don't beg, they make decrees".

Another thing is to not spend all that you have, don't consume it all. Live life investing the resources in your dreams. If you don't have dreams, you should have some, even bigger ones everyday. If you live life without investing the resources you get in your dream, you would start living an empty life.

I remember being afraid of suffering my final year in college. I had just N15,000 on me (it had been delivered to me via my s) and I knew that it wouldn't carry me through the session. I was squatting with someone who didn't care deeply about me so I was suffering financially and emotionally. My elder sister was working in Yaba at the time. I agonized all day about giving the money or holding on to it and seeing how long it would last. I had been living on the hats I was making in school and my family was going through a rough time so they couldn't help. 

I was externally calm because my flesh didn't want to give the money, it wanted to eat the 'little cake and die' like the widow at Zarephat. My spirit knew what I ought to do. I was going through a storm along with my family and I didn't know the way out but God knew.

 I took my sister out to Mr. Biggs and I had lunch. I needed to quench the hunger so that I could think straight. Somewhere in between eating lunch, I was thinking about the N15,000 with anger. I was mad at the devil. I had been baptized with the Holy Ghost and I knew because I felt His tangible presence everyday but in the physical everything was going wrong and I didn't knwo what to do. I hugged my sister and continued on my way to unilag.

That evening, I went for fellowship, I never mentioned anything to anyone except my sister (she is also a dangerous giver) because some people who move by sight would have talked me out of it. I barely heard what the preacher was saying: there were no words that could calm the turmoil going on inside me. I just knew that I was going to abandon myself to God. In the year 2003, something about a quarter of the year, I went to the altar at my college (I had since dropped out of the workforce: the words weren't touching my heart because I was cold inside, where it mattered and I don't act or pretend) I knew that David and other people danced to the altar, I couldn't dance, I had in my bag N15, 000, I paid a tithe (at the time I used to double tithe) of N3000 and gave a seed of N10,000 and I had just N2,000 in my bag (less because I took my sister out to Mr. Biggs; I was determined that poverty would not kill me because God has delivered me from poverty and I must see the manifestation). When I dropped it, I imagined people saying, why doesn't she hold on to that? Why? She looks so bad already. How will she eat? I shut down my imagination because sometimes it can be my enemy.

After I had given the money, I just slept because I was like, if the devil wants to kill me in my sleep let Him try. Whatever, I am in God's plan for my life. I have done what He has said. I slept off. I forgot about the money and put my hope and faith in what God will do. I had decided not to trust in money that could not take care of me for 3 months when I had so long to go before my graduation from college. It was a battle I couldn't believe I was having. I felt like I was watching someone else in a movie because life is supposed to go smoothly for me. I am the poster child, the special ones.

I walked back to my hostel, glad that I had given a sacrificial seed (I don't think anyone ask for it specially) but I know that I believed in God and my faith in God was being challenged and I was determined not to disappoint God. I wasn't going to trust in money. Well days later I met a dear friend who asked me to come and stay with her. I wanted to hop out of where I was staying but God loves Christians and the girl who allowed me move in with her might have been offended so I stayed so that she would know I was not ungrateful but after exams when school resumed I moved in with this friend to a much peaceful room for me. I met 7 very lovely ladies who sheltered me (there is a difference between having a roof over your head and being sheltered, they fed me, clothed me, laughed with me, gisted with me; it was as if God prepared them for me).
I had people divinely positioned all through graduating, NYSC, etc, I didn't pay for many things, I was getting free things from all over without asking so that my pride and dignity would be protected even though I was receiving help. 

There were times I cried and I wailed and I learned what Romans 8:36 not sure (nothing can separate me from the love of God) the hard way. I say the hard way because even as I screamed those prayers I doubted them because I was just so hungry, I had never been hungry like that in my life apart from Tuesday fasts which I had just learned in 2001 and 2002. What kind of fearsome trial is this that I am forced to be hungry in college and I will not beg because "Kings don't beg". I would cry and rage and in the midst of the raging and near despair I would be screaming the prayers out loud and be in tongues because I know the God who touched me on the 4th of September 2001 after I had been born again for 6 months.

The things that He did and showed me challenged my intelligence. I had learned early to trust in my intelligence and all that I trusted in was falling apart so that all that I could hold on to was God and when I thought that I had had enough, something bigger came again. It was in those times I learned to chase God's word. I would read it over and over and underline it. 

So I know what it is like to be helped by God

I call Him faithful
My el-shaddai who feeds every area of my life, me and my fam. 

I didn't come from humble beginnings, my parents have had terrific opportunities but I have been humbled not by poverty but by God who is the author of divine orchestrations, amidst circumstances that would cause others to cower God has shown Himself to be my strength, my provider, my direction, the lover of my soul, my healer, my sanctifier. I am ready for whatever He is ready for. He is my el-shaddai

The faithfulness of God from 2001-2004 April. There's so much more!

Lessons: God is not a coincidence. Neither are the things that He does a coincidence. He always has a plan. Trust in Him. Take your eyes off people and circumstances and put it on Him